For the Girl Who’s Been Told She’s Too Much

You’ve heard it all before. Too loud. Too bold. Too opinionated. Too emotional. Somewhere along the way, someone decided to label your “too much” as a problem. They tried to shrink you, silence you, or mold you into something easier to digest.

But here’s the thing—they weren’t equipped to handle your fire. And that’s not your burden to carry.

This is something I know all too well. As an introvert, being misunderstood comes with the territory. I’ve been told I’m too quiet and too opinionated, sometimes in the same breath. I’ve been called too loud for speaking my truth and too bold for simply being myself. When people can’t quite figure you out—because you’re not trying to be easily understood—they often judge. It makes them feel safe to label what they don’t understand.

For a long time, I let those whispers get to me. I started to wonder if I was doing something wrong by showing up as I am. But here’s what I’ve learned: the parts of you that others find “too much” are often the very things that make you extraordinary. They’re your power, your individuality, your spark.

The world thrives on authentic people like you. The ones who feel deeply, dream wildly, and challenge the status quo. Being “too much” is what makes you extraordinary. You push boundaries. You ask the questions no one else dares to. You show up unapologetically as yourself, and that takes guts.

But that’s not a reason to pull back. It’s a reason to keep going.

Your light is meant to shine, not dim. The ones who try to dim you? They’re often projecting their own insecurities. They see your boldness and mistake it for arrogance, your passion and mistake it for chaos. But don’t you dare let their limited perspective define you.

Here’s what I want you to know:

• Your emotions are not a weakness; they are your compass. Feel everything. Feel it deeply. That’s your power.
• Your voice is not too loud; it’s exactly what someone else needs to hear. Keep speaking. The right people will lean in.
• Your ambition is not intimidating; it’s inspiring. Keep chasing those dreams, no matter who feels left behind.

For every person who tells you to tone it down, there’s someone out there who needs you to show up in full force. Your “too much” is their permission to do the same.

So, let them roll their eyes. Let them whisper. Let them stay uncomfortable in the face of your brilliance. Because the world doesn’t need more muted, watered-down versions of humanity. It needs you. Just as you are.

You are not too much. You are exactly enough.

Keep shining,
Rebecca Hamilton

P.s. If you’re ready to lean into your power and show up unapologetically, Wake Up and Smell the Coffee is here to guide you. It’s packed with insights and tools to help you step into your authenticity and live life on your terms.